My hair was dry, shapeless and undefined only a year ago. I had it relaxed, and wanted desperately to eliminate the frizz and unruly volume. I began to accept myself when I realised the stares from strangers in the street weren't a bad thing - it was because they thought my hair was cool!
Now, I've found products and techniques that work for me, and I had a big chop. It's been a long and winding road, and I'm far from there yet. I've still got so much to learn, but I am working on loving my hair in its natural form and letting it thrive!